I am giving an update, because Charlotte asked for one. There's not much to say this early in the TWW though.
So, FF is predicting my ovulation day as CD20, which is the day I got my positive OPK and the first day we insemmed. If FF is right, then our second insem missed the train.
In looking at my chart, I don't really see why my ovulation day couldn't have been CD21, the day of our second insem. My temp on CD21 is only 0.1 degree higher than on CD20 and even though it shows that it was taken at an odd time, that's only because it was taken at 6 A.M. instead of 7 A.M. I took it an hour earlier than usual because we got up early to do the second insem.
At any rate, it doesn't really matter. It's nearly certain at this point that we insemmed on the day I ovulated, so it's all good. Not to mention, it's not like we can go back and redo our insems, since our time machine seems to be on the fritz today.
I don't know when we will test. I am inclined to wait until at least 14 DPO, but I will let Lo call the shots this cycle. So, if she wants me to test earlier, I will. I don't feel a lot of stress or anticipation this cycle, so I don't think it will be crushing if it's a BFN. Then again, I've said that before.
I am enjoying the fact that this cycle, my chart actually means something again. The meds have made charting a lot less satisfying because Clomid elevates my temps at the beginning and the hoo-ha bullets keep my temps elevated at the end and I never get a positive OPK because we always trigger before I have an LH surge. This time, my chart is all about what my body does naturally. There's something really nice about that.
That doesn't mean I'm not going back to the R.E. next cycle. I'm just saying it's nice.
***TMI, if it's possible on a TTC blog, will follow. You have been warned.***
Here's a question. I read in one of our books that women who find IUIs to be painful (like me) might actually be wasting our time and money. It says, "When your cervix or uterus is traumatized, prostaglandins are released that cause the uterus to contract in a way that can push sperm out. Thus, a painful insemination may result only in trauma, not pregnancy."
Now this book has a lot of good information, but they definitely have a bias toward the natural and homeopathy and acupuncture. That's fine, for them and for anyone else who is more into that. But I'm a western medicine gal.
I don't agree with a fair amount of what is in that particular book. They say things like, "...if you're using a known sperm donor, be sure to ask him to give up caffeine as well." Um, yeah. I can see that happening if you're using a KD who is going to co-parent with you or if your KD doesn't really drink much caffeine anyway and it's no real sacrifice. Otherwise, it seems a bit extreme to ask someone who is already giving you a tremendous gift to restrict his lifestyle to the point that he can't have a cup of joe or a cola.
The book also clearly states that "a vaginal exam need not be painful. We repeat, a vaginal exam need not be painful." Ha! In what universe? I know quite a few women--het and gay--who have never had a non-painful speculum experience, including me. It doesn't matter how gentle the person is or if they take their time. My college P.A., the really sweet queer-friendly community health center P.A., my last 3 GYNs, the guy who did my HSG and Dr. Quick. Yes, they ALL hurt me. I actually got through my last IUI concentrating on relaxing and it didn't hurt when the speculum went in. I just felt pressure like all the books say you're supposed to. But then when he opened it, ow. Ow, ow, ow.
Not that you need this analogy, but every time I go to the dentist, I get told over and over to open my mouth wider. It's not my fault that dentists dislike me. I just have a small mouth. It stands to reason, then, that some of us are just... anatomically smaller... and well, more difficult to open wider. I'm making that up, but it makes sense to me.
Okay, that was TMI. But I don't need a book telling me that I just haven't found the right practioner who can be gentle enough not to hurt me. Hello? What am I supposed to do? Go on perfectpap.com to find Dr. Right? It's not going to happen.
But I am concerned at the suggestion that it might mean I won't get pg doing IUIs. Has anyone heard that about painful IUIs being less likely to result in pregnancy? Dr. Quick certainly never said so, and he has a pretty big stake in knocking me up. Did anyone who found IUIs to be painful get pregnant? Would it hurt or help to take a little Tylenol or ibuprofen beforehand, if I'm relying on the trigger shot? I'm not wondering because I can't take pain, but rather because I am wondering if it would help or hurt my chances at all. Should I give up on IUIs, or is that just another thing I should ignore in that book? Opinions, if you read the TMI, please.