tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21200500.post113807072778626130..comments2023-06-10T10:23:32.293-04:00Comments on The Family O: Lohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10507793708832982682noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21200500.post-1138275714097608362006-01-26T06:41:00.000-05:002006-01-26T06:41:00.000-05:00Thanks, Charlotte....that's *exactly* how I feel. ...Thanks, Charlotte....that's *exactly* how I feel. Someone in a 3 way relationship already immediately understands, on a visceral level, the concept of alternative family.<BR/> We don't yet if we like him a lot. We're meeting him for the first time next month. Yikes! I'm optimistic because the friends who "set this up" are people I've known for a long, long time....one of them since we were 4 and 2 (I'm older!) and the other since high school. And I introduced them to each other (inadvertently, they were just at the same event at my mom's house) so maybe now they're going to return the favor in the biggest way ever!<BR/> Anyway, what I'm saying is, if these 2 friends of mine think that C. and I will like Potential Donor, that's a pretty good recommendation. And I really appreciate your comment about it because you're absolutely right...using KD is adding someone to your family. We don't want a co-parent, we want what one of my books calls a "super-uncle." :-)Lohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10507793708832982682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21200500.post-1138214739819935842006-01-25T13:45:00.000-05:002006-01-25T13:45:00.000-05:00hey there, us too!!trying to decide on a KD, maybe...hey there, <BR/>us too!!<BR/>trying to decide on a KD, maybev frozen.<BR/>What an adventure!!<BR/>I like that your KD is in a 3 way relationship, because that indicates that he really really can grasp alternative families, and it seems like he will be able to not feel like the dad. He sounds great. My big question for you is do you like him a lot? He will be in your lives forever in some capacity, is why I ask.charlottehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230044999353790391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21200500.post-1138121807464178722006-01-24T11:56:00.000-05:002006-01-24T11:56:00.000-05:00Hi - I stumbled over from....somewhere (can't reme...Hi - I stumbled over from....somewhere (can't remember) but my wife and I are in (somewhat) of the same boat.<BR/><BR/>Even as we're looking at unknown, frozen donors....we're not discounting anyone who has a history of heart attack in their past, or any other medical "red flag." (unless really really serious.)<BR/><BR/>I agree on the genetic engineering of a child discussion - As long as the kid's healthy (and at least a little cute) we'll be fine. Would I like blue eyes? Yeah, but that's the only genetic marker I'd really like, and if it doesn't happen, I'm ok with that too. <BR/><BR/>Good luck, and try not to obsess too much....it tends to drive you insane.Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17731173970094468889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21200500.post-1138118251434239752006-01-24T10:57:00.000-05:002006-01-24T10:57:00.000-05:00I agree with Amanda. Go with your gut. We did eve...I agree with Amanda. Go with your gut. We did even when it meant saying no to a KD and I am so happy we did!Erynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02434037787487181291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21200500.post-1138113885920287412006-01-24T09:44:00.000-05:002006-01-24T09:44:00.000-05:00Dear familyo,Any info you want to provide is alway...Dear familyo,<BR/>Any info you want to provide is always welcome. You can email me at flicka78@aol.com, or i can email YOU from my work address. i don't really want to put it out publicly. We are taking a break for numerous reasons, but still discuss it and think about it on a regular basis.<BR/>In regard to your donor--it does sound like it's made for tv, but then again, all of our lives do! The most important thing is that you have the feeling in your gut when you meet him...i think that's the only way to know for sure. Good luck!!Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07918357231831125920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21200500.post-1138103272599795192006-01-24T06:47:00.000-05:002006-01-24T06:47:00.000-05:00See, that's what's cool about Europe. 2.5 hours a...See, that's what's cool about Europe. 2.5 hours away is a different *country*!!Lohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10507793708832982682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21200500.post-1138092084880841332006-01-24T03:41:00.000-05:002006-01-24T03:41:00.000-05:00I understand completely. When we were looking for ...I understand completely. When we were looking for a donor, the distance was important. Our donor lives about 2.5 hours away, in a different country and although he has experience in being a donor, for us personally, it was important that we didn't run into him everyday or his family members. <BR/><BR/>There are so many things to consider, but I'm sure your gut feeling will help you. But it sounds like you are doing a great job already. By that, I mean, you already know enough about him that there will be no surprises (I hope). Good Luck !!Sarah and BBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08168029982807186679noreply@blogger.com