tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21200500.post117323846104735612..comments2023-06-10T10:23:32.293-04:00Comments on The Family O: Nurse Lo, Lesbians at the Gyn, and Advice, PleaseLohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10507793708832982682noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21200500.post-1173310710194546162007-03-07T18:38:00.000-05:002007-03-07T18:38:00.000-05:00Doesn't it work to just lay your hand on her back ...Doesn't it work to just lay your hand on her back and hold really still so you can feel the movements to make sure she's breathing? I'm a worrier too...<BR/><BR/>It sounds like you're frustrated that your Dad wouldn't understand if you just said "not a good time" and that makes you feel more defensive about it being a not good time. And you don't especially want to see your dad. We go through similar things with fostermommy's dad, which have actually escalated recently, so I know how tough this can be. Up until the recent stuff, she's found the path of least trauma to be picking a meal time and meeting him in the restaurant and parting company afterwards. It's quick if not painless.<BR/><BR/>Your mom will be fine w/o you for brunch one morning, but if you're really worried you *could* go with the suggestion to leave Co with her while you go pay your dues with your dad. <BR/><BR/>I'm glad you're ruling out trying to put your sister in the middle of it. Yay for getting to see nephew!fostermamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09892654110641448023noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21200500.post-1173284603539146232007-03-07T11:23:00.000-05:002007-03-07T11:23:00.000-05:00I originally read that as "lesbians at the GYM" an...I originally read that as "lesbians at the GYM" and thought it would be a much hotter post.<BR/><BR/>How often do you get to see your dad otherwise? I mean, do you get to see him often? If that's a yes, i'd go with Cali's thoughts.<BR/><BR/>Also, I often poke at S when i think she's not breathing. She loves this. Really.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21200500.post-1173279766542625932007-03-07T10:02:00.000-05:002007-03-07T10:02:00.000-05:00Um, wow! Now I totally want to know if I still hav...Um, wow! Now I totally want to know if I still have a hymen. Maybe I will ask at my next IUI. But I'm with Estelle. Don't see why an IUI could not be done with the hymen intact. And if this doctor doesn't think she could do it, then I wouldn't trust her to know enough about IUIs to do one. I've had enough painful IUIs at the gyno's now that I wouldn't go back down that road. At the RE's office they just do hundreds of these things, and they know what they're doing there. My experience at the RE's has been completely different--virtually painless. It's over in a minute and no worse than getting a shot now.<BR/><BR/>I don't think option A is such a bad way to go. Your mom likely will need the rest anyway. Could you explain the situation to her and not to your dad? I hope she would understand you leaving for a couple of hours.Melodyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08826926847932274929noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21200500.post-1173276952407130242007-03-07T09:15:00.000-05:002007-03-07T09:15:00.000-05:00Um, your hymen can be broken easily. At home, if y...Um, your hymen can be broken easily. At home, if you're so inclined. It's likely almost dissolved itself by now, anyway. And, um, we're always told that a GYN can't tell if we're virgins, so... anyway. <BR/>You can so do an IUI with a hymen. WTF? It's a catheter. It's small. There is no reason it can't be done. <BR/><BR/>Moving on to mom-<BR/>Glad that she is having the surgery and feels like it is the best option for her. However, I doubt her recovery will be too arduous. My mom recently had a full hysterectomy the old fashioned way, and was okay to be on her own within a few days (not that my dad left her on her own! but he could have). Having it done lapro...lapora... the way she is doing it, her recovery should be short and sweet. No real reason not to leave to have lunch with your dad. Of course, that's dependent upon your comfort level. If you like your dad and want to see him, I'd just take a few hours and go see him. You could even leave Co with your mom if you don't want her to be alone. How soon after the surgery is he coming in?<BR/><BR/>And glad Co was still breathing. Breathing is very important.Estellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12133147419963948340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21200500.post-1173274402094008302007-03-07T08:33:00.000-05:002007-03-07T08:33:00.000-05:00is there a way you could just explain to your dad ...is there a way you could just explain to your dad that you are coming to town to BE with your Mother. You could also leave it open ended a bit as well- say if a moment arose where you could leave her side for a while...maybe you could see him (if you wanted)<BR/>I had a lap to look for endo and I was sore for a few days. My Mother had her gallbladder removed via lap & was back at work the next day. <BR/>Your Mom sounds like a tough cookie and I hope everything goes well.<BR/>xoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21200500.post-1173260699243779762007-03-07T04:44:00.000-05:002007-03-07T04:44:00.000-05:00Surely the hymen can't be that hard to er...break,...Surely the hymen can't be that hard to er...break, or bypass - afterall, it happens all the time, right?<BR/><BR/>Tricky situation with your Dad. Despite the 'really, really wrong'ness of option a. that might be where a partial answer lies? If your mum is recovering, she may want to rest/sleep. If your Dad was prepared to be flexible with plans, you could see him for coffee or something, somewhere near your mum's house, at that point? (Presuming someone else could be there for your mum?) Apologies if this is a really, really stupid idea.<BR/>I guess another alternative would be just to let him be pissed off by it and leave him to get over it. After all, he does live 6 hours away from you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com