So, I have found out that my sister is planning to name her child for the same relative that we are planning to name for. (This is somewhat dependent on the gender of Co's and my children, whether we end up really doing it.)
It is okay, in Jewish families, for more than one child to be named for an ancestor. It happens.
In this case, my sister wasn't sure if she even wanted to name for this relative (you know, if someone had a lot of faults, do you want to name for them? stuff like that). Last we spoke about naming for relatives, she said she wouldn't do it.
Co and I innocently expressed our opinion that it is okay to name for this relative, and why we feel that way.
And now, apparently she has changed her mind.
I know I can do it too. But she will have done it first. This was something I wanted to do for my Daddy. But now I can't, and it's my own fault for being honest and telling her our thoughts.
Is my rage/desire to curl up in a ball and disappear completely unreasonable??
I really don't know.