Friday, January 04, 2008

He's Official

Jo's birth certificate came in the mail today!

Along with it came a "birth certificate correction form," so I jested that we ought to just note that I'd been left off and be done with the whole thing. In fact, the correction form explicitly announced that a woman who is married can add her husband's name to the birth certificate, even if he is not the biological father.

I have been pretty upbeat about this second parent adoption thing, feeling relieved that we have the option to make it legal rather than annoyed that I have to do it all, even when forking over the hefty retainer to our lawyer. But that line on the form gave me a sharp moment of anger. I caught this child on his way into the world. I planned his conception with as much (and far more than some) intention of any husband. Why must I jump through these hoops to prove what couldn't be any truer?

On a lighter note, the third insert in the envelope was a yellow pamphlet, courtesy of our city, labelled "Your Baby." NOW they send us the instructions!!


jay said...

Grr! That makes me mad too. BTW, I don't think you need the leaflet!! xx

EggDropBlogger said...

I'm glad you got the birth certificate. That's exciting.

Jumping through hoops to make everything legal definately sucks!

One day, one day soon...

Shelli said...

when you get the amended birth certificate (after 2nd parent adoption), it WILL say "Parent 1" and "Parent 2"

Malka's does! :)

Holly said...

I had a few moments here and there where I got frustrated that I had to prove my parentage. But I'm very happy that it hasn't been a tough process for you!

I'm curious what the "your baby" pamphlet is. Does it give you all the answers to everything?!?!?

BTW - our perfect parenting companion has been Baby 411. We give it as shower gifts to everyone.