Sunday, February 19, 2006

Enneagrams

Got this quiz from a friend. It's available at The Quick and Painless ENNEAGRAM Test

I have heard of Enneagrams from another source outside the Internet (i.e. my therapist); whether this particular quiz is truly useful, I can't be sure, of course, but I'm posting it here because:
a) The "results" talk about what I was like as a child (accurately, I think) and what I will be like as a parent (yikes!) in ways that make sense when I consider how I am as a teacher.

b) These "results" mesh with how I feel a lot of the time. Particularly right now.


the Helper
Test finished! you chose CX - your Enneagram type is TWO.


"I must help others"



Helpers are warm, concerned, nurturing, and sensitive to other people's
needs.



How to Get Along with Me




  • Tell me that you appreciate me. Be specific.


  • Share fun times with me.


  • Take an interest in my problems, though I will probably try to focus
    on yours.


  • Let me know that I am important and special to you.


  • Be gentle if you decide to criticize me.




    In Intimate Relationships



  • Reassure me that I am intersting to you.


  • Reassure me often that you love me.


  • Tell me I'm attractive and that you're glad to be seen with me.



What I Like About Being a Two




  • being able to relate easily to people and to make friends


  • knowing what people need and being able to make their lives better


  • being generous, caring, and warm


  • being sensitive to and perceptive about others' feelings


  • being enthusiastic and fun-loving, and having a good sense of humor



What's Hard About Being a Two




  • not being able to say no


  • having low self-esteem


  • feeling drained from overdoing for others


  • not doing things I really like to do for myself for fear of being selfish


  • criticizing myself for not feeling as loving as I think I should


  • being upset that others don't tune in to me as much as I tume in to
    them


  • working so hard to be tactful and considerate that I suppress my real
    feelings



Twos as Children Often




  • are very sensitive to disapproval and criticism


  • try hard to please their parents by being helpful and understanding


  • are outwardly compliant


  • are popular or try to be popular with other children


  • act coy, precocious, or dramatic in order to get attention


  • are clowns and jokers (the more extroverted Twos), or quiet and shy
    (the more introverted Twos)



Twos as Parents




  • are good listeners, love their children unconditionally, and are warm
    and encouraging (or suffer guilt if they aren't)


  • are often playful with their children


  • wonder: "Am I doing it right?" "Am I giving enough?"

    "Have I caused irreparable damage?"


  • can become fiercely protective

3 comments:

Green Dads said...

Hi there Lo,
Read your comment over at my blog. You mentioned that you think we know some people in common and now I am intrigued. I read through some of your blog to see if I could get some hints but didn't.

The Enneagram test you posted was interesting, I decided to check it out and may post my results.

Calliope said...

yo Lo-
link away! I'll add yours this week as well!

Lorem ipsum said...

Hi Lo!

Thanks for coming by my blog!

I took the test - I'm a six, 'affectionate and skeptical.' Which is probably the nicest thing out of the whole description. Yeah, we're also good at beating ourselves up.