Sperm Bank Advice

Co and I have been observing with delight and amusement (and relief) that so many couples seem to be like us...a balance of one more hesitant person and one let's-go-right-now-hurry-up person.

Being as I am the hurried planner in the pair, I am thinking about sperm bank research in case PKD doesn't work out. What banks have people had good experiences with or seem good for any reason.

We're in New York so if there are any near us that would be excellent, please share, but my research indicates New England Cryobank is probably the closest.

I've found lots of info online and in books, and have quite a few sites bookmarked; I'm stuck in terms of making sense of it all so I am seeking the wisdom & experience of you amazing women out there in the blogosphere.

(We do know that we cannot use Rainbow Flag Health Services, and we're interested in identity-release programs.)

Finally, a note about my paranoia: a comment on my last post pointed out that financial concerns often dictate the decision about fresh or frozen. I feel this unhappy anxiety that I am going to end up paying money that I don't realistically have because I do not have the social skills required to be friends with a man who will hand over his sperm.

The issues this stuff brings up are really quite remarkable. If all parents had to go through such a process........(then I think children might just be a bit better off???)