Needing Lesbian Help.....
I found out today that someone close to me is pregnant. Someone heterosexual without fertility problems (anyone who has to do as much work as Co and I do to create their family wins my total respect).
And I don't mean that I lack respect for someone who has an easy time. I just wish for a little bit more sensitivity when they give me their news. It IS NOT going to be that easy for us. We are hoping to use fresh sperm and by the book that makes it easier. But even if everything works out with PKD then we still have the following issues:
--Our access to that fresh sperm is not the same as if we were het.
--We would have to travel 3 hrs to get PKD's sperm.
--While we intend to try to make Adventures with a Syringe as lovely and romantic as Eryn & partner did (Two Moms are Better Than One) it just doesn't sound the same as sex.
--We will need to spend money and energy and time on a lawyer before we can begin TTC.
--One of us will have to legally adopt the child (I will have to adopt baby 1 since our plan is that Co will give birth).
--We can't have a baby who is genetically related to both of us (neither of us have related donors that would work out, it just wouldn't work). We are okay with this, we do not shed tears over this, because it's not even a societal problem, it just is what it is....but of course we would prefer what Whimsy of Two More Mamas calls "egg salad."
There are probably more differences but it's all I can think of right now.
And I feel like a pretty evil person for not feeling purely happy for someone that I love -- and I didn't tell her how I felt -- but it is just so hard when you are plodding along keeping your spirits up, waiting and waiting and waiting.......and someone else can just DO IT and not even understand.
Thanks for reading, if you are.